Resilience - Part 3
What does Resilience look like?
In part three of our Resilience series, we are going to look at resilient behaviour. What is it, and how it operate in our life. Some characteristics of resilient behaviour include:
- Viewing setbacks as temporary, not permanent.
- Reframing setbacks as opportunities for growth.
- Recognizing cognitive distortions as false beliefs.
- Focusing on what you can control.
- Not seeing yourself as a victim.
- Having a positive outlook on the future and developing a growth mindset.
An example of viewing a setback as impermanent would be someone who works in sales losing a client. They could either look at this as a troubling event or as something that is only temporary. In reality, losing one client, even a big one, is not the end of the world. Staying flexible and having some perspective can help you realize that there are many other clients to attract.
Cognitive distortions are things that can derail your resilience. They are basically false beliefs. These are things that we convince ourselves are true, and therefore reinforce negative thinking. The challenge is to reframe these distortions in more realistic terms; to challenge the validity of these beliefs.
Focusing on events and actions that you can control is another great example of resilient behaviour. Some things are simply out of our control. Traffic would be one of those things. You can either get angry and yell at other drivers, or turn on some nice music, or think of new ideas for your next project.
Not seeing yourself as a victim is a great key. A resilient person understands that sometimes things “just happen”. They don’t take on a victim mentality. If you continually see yourself as a victim in life, you will keep building that mindset.
Finally, having a positive outlook of the future and developing a growth mindset are probably two of the simplest things we can do to build resilience. Cultivating a growth mindset involves a desire to learn, be open and adaptable, and be willing to change.