Do you consider yourself to be a pessimistic or an optimistic person?
How we make sense of and handle things in life has a lot to do with how positive we are. Fortunately, this aspect of our personality is not fixed and can be shaped to become more optimistic. Unrealistic optimism is not desirable, so aim for the middle ground of being open to and looking for positive experiences. While we are doing this it’s also important to accept what we can’t change.
Here are some ways to become more realistically optimistic:
Change your expectations.
How much time and energy is wasted on feeling bad about things over which we have no control? Imagine how much better you would feel if you modified your expectations especially with things you cannot change.
Enjoy the small things.
If you postpone happiness for big events in life, you limit your happiness to very few experiences. Consider the smaller, more frequent aspects of life that make you happy, and you will reap the benefits.
There is a happy medium between pessimism and radical optimism. Be realistic about yourself and the world around you, and it will better prepare you for what tomorrow brings.
Gratitude is the opposite of negativity. Consider and appreciate all the great things in your life. Count your blessings, as they say.
Start the day on a positive note.
The day will go more smoothly if it begins with a positive outlook. Remember to start the day thinking about things and doing things that are positive and give you a sense of hope.
Don’t be too hard on yourself.
Self-acceptance is a vital aspect of a positive attitude. If you tend to consistently berate yourself, seek new ways to create more encouraging and kind self-talk.
Remember, mastery happens by consistently practising good mental habits every day. Choose one area and start moving towards becoming a happy and more optimistic person.